The Fragmented Mirror

Trauma often feels like a mirror that broke years ago. You’ve cleaned up the big pieces, but you keep finding sharp shards with your feet when you’re just trying to walk through your own home. Suddenly, you’re hit with a wave of confusion, anger, or dread that feels “too loud.”

It’s exhausting to always be on the lookout for the next cut.

Moving Beyond “Knowing Why”

Many people I work with are deeply insightful. You likely understand your triggers. You may even fully know why they are there. But insight only goes so far. Sometimes, all that understanding actually helps keep the trauma frozen in place. You may know why you’re reacting, but knowing doesn’t stop the reaction from happening.

A Note on Our Time Together

I know your time is valuable. I won’t waste it teaching you coping skills you likely already know. Instead of working from the "outside-in" with tools to merely manage your symptoms, we work from the inside-out. We go beyond managing the distress to shifting the way you experience yourself from the ground up.

How We Work Differently

In our work, the relationship takes center stage. While we use specialized tools, like EMDR, to help your nervous system “digest” stuck memories or somatic experiences, the heart of the process of change is how we relate in the moment.

We don’t just talk about the past; we catch how the triggers show up between us, right now. By cultivating new, somatic experiences in the safety of our sessions, your mind and body learn how to find their way back to a state of calm. The goal isn’t just to “process” a memory. It’s to help you experience yourself differently from the moment you leave my office.

What to Expect:

• Building the Foundation: We never jump into the deep end. First, we develop your ability to tolerate intense emotions often resulting in the feeling of being checked out or disconnected. This helps you build your ability to maintain “one foot in the present and one foot in the past” during trauma reprocessing.

• The Road Map: We map out memories, body sensations, and relationship patterns you want to shift.

• The Process: I pair EMDR with AEDP. Think of EMDR as the tool that clears the 'stuck' files in your nervous system, while AEDP is the practice of building a new, more resilient way of relating to yourself and others in real-time." EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (eye moments or other sensory mechanisms) to let your brain do the heavy lifting. You don’t need the "perfect words" or a flawless explanation. We are simply helping your system get back on track so that those sharp memories eventually become, quite simply, boring.

Change doesn't happen in a vacuum—it happens in the space between us. Because this work is experiential, I offer a 30-minute initial consultation. This gives us enough time to move beyond the logistics and let you get a genuine sense of what a session feels like. If this approach feels like the right fit for your nervous system, let's connect.